Moderated meetup for all bi+ people in relationships perceived as heterosexual and their partners | All-Queer Edition

We invite queer people and their partners to come together in a safe and confidential setting to discuss the challenges and opportunities of relationships that are perceived as heterosexual. Questioning and closeted individuals are also explicitly invited.

All-Queer-Edition: Für alle Queers in hetero-gelesenen Beziehungen und  ihre Partner*innen

Relationships perceived as heterosexual are maintained by people from diverse queer backgrounds. At the Bi+ Relationships Meetup, the majority of participants so far have been diverse Bi+ individuals and their heterosexual partners. However, this topic—and the related issues and invisibilities—also affects other queer people, such as trans*, inter*, and nonbinary people who are in mixed-gender relationships. And, of course, it also affects lesbian* and gay people who are in relationships with trans or nonbinary people.

At the gathering, we want to create a space for all queer relationships that are perceived as heterosexual, and we look forward to the discussion.

A group of people from Berlin’s Bi+ community came together in autumn 2023 and have been organising the moderated Bi+ relationships meeting since December. According to a 2017 US study, 88% of partnered bi+ people are in a relationship with someone of a different gender to themselves. A large proportion of these relationships are interpreted by mainstream society as hetero (normative) relationships – making the bisexuality of one or both people invisible once again. Even hetero partners in relationships with bi+ people rarely find places to talk about their experiences.

The main language of the evening is German, contributions in English are very welcome.

Please register for the meeting by e-mail to bi-relationships@biberlin.de up to two days before the event. We will then send you a confirmation and the address. (Location within the S-Bahn ring and well connected by public transport).

Registration for the next date starts after the previous date and we will initially allocate half of the places to ‘early bookers’. The remaining places will be allocated from about two weeks before the date so that people can also come a little more spontaneously (e.g. those who do not know their work schedules/childcare so early). People who didn’t get a place last time will be given priority over those who were there last time.

We look forward to seeing you!